(The objective of this post is to encourage good men to be more assertive in chasing women who meet their ideal.)
Modern man is often far too civilized, too tamed and too ashamed to assertively and aggressively go after what he wants in life. Any time a man shows the slightest masculine energy he's attacked with cackles of “toxic masculinity”.
Too many men labour under deeply ingrained false notions of gender equality, other people's expectations of niceness or misinterpretations of the NAP. Having lost all capacity to be truly dangerous they meekly accept whatever role the more dominant men in society foist upon them. Some men will even completely give up, voluntarily dropping out of the gene pool to retreat, going their own way so to speak. But it needn't be so.