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3 Keys To Changing Your Life

One of the most satisfying experiences as a coach is helping a client to make deep and lasting personal changes that improve his life. 

People come to me for coaching for a wide variety of reasons. Many are overwhelmed with anxiety, stress, frustration and situations seemingly beyond their control.

Some feel lost, stalled in life. Others have things about themselves that they are embarrassed to ask anyone for help to change. 

Most of my clients experience nearly immediate relief (or improvement) regarding their primary reason for contacting me. Some choose to continue upgrading their lives over a longer period. 

The clients who make steady progress towards their larger goals have three things in common.

How to get lucky

If you feel unlucky in love or would like to improve your chances of finding your ideal partner then this post is for you.

  • What role do you believe luck or chance plays in your love life?

  • How much control over your world do you think you have?

  • Can you change the chances of getting positive or negative outcomes in your life?

  • Can you manipulate luck?

Mastering Your Schedule With Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

We are what we do habitually. Our habits are largely the result of our schedule. If our schedule is chaotic or unplanned then we will live a life of chaos, lacking in direction. Therefore, to have an orderly life that takes us where we want to go we need to pay special attention to our schedule.

The good news is that building a schedule has never been easier. Most of us have a smartphone with built in calendar functions. If you still live in the stone age you can buy a paper appointment book for very little money. The key is to choose a simple solution that will travel with you.

In addition, your schedule needs to support your goals and help you to orientate your life. It needs to put important things first. I should encourage the development of good habits and patterns of living. This post will offer a path to developing such a schedule.

Setting Boundaries and Emotional Chastity (Exercise and Worksheet included)

If you ever wondered how to answer personal questions while on a date this post is for you.

Healthy, strong relationships are built on a foundation of truth. Lies, manipulation and distraction destroy trust and prevent the possibility of building a happy future. Yet, it's not prudent to promiscuously share details about yourself with strangers. How can you draw the line? What is an acceptable level of sharing for various stages of a relationship?

Do Women Have Agency?

Do women have agency?

The question is an important one, especially since men started to experiment with allowing women the privilege of participating in the management of the commons. By that I mean we let them vote.

Modern society tends to give women all the privileges that come with having agency without expecting them to actually demonstrate agency in their lives. This is very destructive and confusing to women. It's not a reasonable approach and the long term effects are destroying western culture and societies.

For the sake of saving our future we need to have a cohesive and logical approach to questions regarding women and agency. This post will look at the question in what I think is a very straightforward and simple manner.

How to get the most out of SMV4K

This message is for both new and long time SMV4K members. I really care about all of you and I want you to get the most out of your participation in SMV4K. More importantly, I want you to achieve your best romantic goals, to be happily married and to raise some wonderful children. This post is a message from my heart to you.