Cheat sheet to help you keep your relationship strong and healthy.
Cheat sheet to help you keep your relationship strong and healthy.
Traditional women need romantic commitment. Their peak SMV window, the time that they are capable of attracting the best quality mate is very small. The fear of wasting that time is very real.
In this video I speak with Rachel who is dating a man she likes very much. She feels conflicted about meeting new men while she is developing the first stages of a potentially permanent relationship. The internal conflict exists because her favorite sutor has not yet proposed an explicit commitment of exclusive dating.
This interview includes great tips for men to help them get the highest SMV women they can attain.
Self Improvement, dating and marriage is serious business, but sometimes we take it too seriously.
It's also supposed to be fun. It should be enjoyable. If you are finding the challenge of meeting new people, or improving your SMV to be overwhelming, maybe the problem is that you are not having fun doing it.
If you are a man or woman who is interested in or confused about the subject of feminine assertiveness this message is for you.
We will be covering the subject of assertiveness for women in three parts. This will enable us to go deeper into the subject and avoid overwhelming the reader.
In an ideal world we would have a very well organized sexual market consisting of social systems that promote K-selected behaviour and the formation of stable marriages. We don't live in the ideal, so we must work with what we have. Failure is not an option.
Whatever dating and courtship strategies that we use must take into account the lack of a structured sexual marketplace. We will need to build our own structure and demonstrate far more autonomy than was previously required. That can be exhausting if we don't have a good strategy to facilitate our search.
The so called “sexual revolution” brought on by female prescription birth control has had a huge impact on society and our culture over the last 50 years. Depending on your goals and what you want out of life, this “revolution” may not have had the positive impact on your life which the feminist narrative wants you to believe.
If you are feeling too exhausted to pursue the life you want, this message is for you.
Self improvement, raising your SMV, dating, courtship all takes energy. Mental, emotional and physical energy. Unfortunately, most people seem to be exhausted all the time.
Tens of millions of Americans are diagnosed with depression each year. Europeans also suffer from high rates of depression. Very often depression presents as exhaustion or is confused with it. Taking prescription drugs for depression when you actually have low physical energy due to lifestyle issues is not going to make your life better.
We all know that nice guys finish last. On the other hand the assertive man gets the life he wants.
If you ever wished that you were more assertive or that you could channel your disagreeableness into a more productive direction than this message is for you.
A special note to women. This message is primarily directed at improving the behaviour of men however if you want to find and marry an assertive man you will need to know how to identify and attract one. This message can help you to do just that.
We live in an age of conflicting messages on sex.
On one hand, women are encouraged to be “liberated;” to ride the cock carousel from puberty until they are in their mid thirties. News and entertainment propaganda advises women to “Sleep with 25 men before you marry”. College is seen as a time of sexual exploration where every depravity should be experimented with at least once.
Men too are encouraged to follow the example of PUAs (pick up artists) who spend their time “gaming” women into bed. Internet advertisements offer to teach you “that one trick that lets any man sleep with gorgeous women.” Monogamy is deemed a bad deal when you could be having sex with buxom, exotic beauties every weekend.
Yet, when men and women follow the pressure to be promiscuous, they often end up unmarriable, broken, sad, hollow, sick, imprisoned, or dead.
To make this very clear. The assertive man who proposes a clear path to marriage as presented in this post will greatly increase his chances of becoming successful in convincing a good women to marry him.
Self control (or self discipline) is powerful. With enough of it we can accomplish almost anything. For most of my life I have believed that any one of us could have everything we ever wanted, if only we were to develop more self control and better habits. Individual power, liberty, freedom and happiness await the one who can master his impulses and motivate himself.
(The objective of this post is to encourage good men to be more assertive in chasing women who meet their ideal.)
Modern man is often far too civilized, too tamed and too ashamed to assertively and aggressively go after what he wants in life. Any time a man shows the slightest masculine energy he's attacked with cackles of “toxic masculinity”.
Too many men labour under deeply ingrained false notions of gender equality, other people's expectations of niceness or misinterpretations of the NAP. Having lost all capacity to be truly dangerous they meekly accept whatever role the more dominant men in society foist upon them. Some men will even completely give up, voluntarily dropping out of the gene pool to retreat, going their own way so to speak. But it needn't be so.
White, western, Europeans have become atomized. We must reverse the trend or die.
When I was younger the city I grew up in had clubs for all of the specific white ethnicities that were present there. The German club and the Polish club were the largest. They got together regularly to speak their native languages and celebrate the best parts of their culture with food, songs and dances. It was exclusive and it was unabashedly pro-western culture. These type of events helped young people to mix within a pro-family environment where they could find compatible mates with similar marital expectations.
This message is for both new and long time SMV4K members. I really care about all of you and I want you to get the most out of your participation in SMV4K. More importantly, I want you to achieve your best romantic goals, to be happily married and to raise some wonderful children. This post is a message from my heart to you.
As a K-selected person you need to quickly identify and avoid socializing with r-selected people. Even more importantly you want to avoid dating or marrying them as I have explained in the past.
Unfortunately, we can't trust r-selected people to voluntarily self identify. I've had plenty of self proclaimed K-selected people respond with typical r-selected programing. Deception is an integral part of the r strategy. They lie and they take truth and twist it.
Last weeks post was about the value of a good reputation and its effect on our sexual market value. This week we discuss some specific steps to building a better reputation.
We are not all equal. Some people are simply better than others. This is reflected in our different outcomes and reputations. A person with a great reputation will have a much easier time in life compared to the alternatives. It's time to stop the navel-gazing, put down the self help books and take actions.
How does your reputation affect your Sexual Market Value and your ability to attract a high quality mate?
One of the worst pieces of advice to come out of the cultural marxist corruption of western culture is the encouragement to not care about what other people think about us.
This type of false wisdom has contributed to our overly atomized, honourless society. It weakens us, keeps us lonely, prevents us from forming and connecting with our in-group. Its toxic.
You know what you want out of life.
You know how to get it.
Then, why don't you have it yet?
In this post I address a major weakness that I have anecdotally found is common among K-selected people. If you are having a hard time getting motivated to take transformative action to improve your SMV and find a wonderful spouse then this is for you!
You can choose to be almost anything you want, as long as it's not boring. Of all the advice that can be given about raising your sexual market value this is the most true and universal. It applies to everyone.